NOTE: The energy-work techniques in this article can be used by anyone with disharmony in their home, or anger, resentment and fear in their heart.
All families have unique challenges. Blended families are no exception. The mix of two or more families into one can lead to a blend of challenges!
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Several of my stepparent clients have expressed guilt and shame about the resentment they feel toward their older stepchildren, who seemed determined to destroy their marriages and the blended family.
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When these stepparents tried to defend themselves in family conflicts, the birth parent spouses often became protective and took the side of their children. The stepparents told me they felt disrespected and rejected.
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Many new stepparents are unprepared, even shocked by their stepchildren’s behavior and their spouse's response.
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If the stepparent and his or her spouse have children of their own, stepchildren who are used to being the ONLY child for many years may create severe family discord due to fears of rejection and abandonment.
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One client told me, “I know I’m the adult and supposed to forgive and forget. But sometimes I feel so resentful and hurt at my spouse defending the actions of this kid who seems intent on destroying our family. Everyday I’ve got my guard up, waiting for the next outburst. I don’t want my marriage to end but they won’t go for family counseling. What can I do?”
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Of course I suggested we use energy-work, either FREED or EFT. To get to the core issues, I asked them to identify their most upsetting fears and memories.
We then applied the energy-work until the stepparent could recall the hurtful incidents, but feel NO emotional charge. By changing one family member's energetic vibrations, harmony was restored to these families!
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After one stepfather, “Allen”, worked with me to GET FREED of his fears, he felt peace despite any button pushing the stepchild tried. Because he no longer reacted, his wife no longer felt obligated to rush to her teenager’s defense. With her maternal defenses lowered, his wife clearly saw the stepchild’s manipulative behavior.
This couple reunited to work together as an unbeatable team, backing each other up in disciplinary action, making the stepchild’s tactics ineffective.
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“Allen” emailed, “I am amazed at how well this worked. A mega, mega thanks to you for this, and helping me.” Months later he wrote that their home life continued to be “very peaceful and harmonious.”
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FREED and EFT/MTT are fabulous tools to create and maintain a happy home! Want to release your fears and open your heart to love again? Contact Colleen today!
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